brene brown

Listerine and Shame

I've always been ashamed of my teeth. I hate smiling in pictures—there I said it.  When my agent told me I'd booked this commercial, I really thought they had the wrong guy. That could happen right? The casting director called my agent and asked for a different Michael?

Shame is a subtle poison. 

If you've read any of Brene Brown's work you know it's fundamentally a lie aimed at keeping its victim locked in a tight cage of inaction. I was so sure no one would hire me for something like this I almost skipped the audition. I just made funny faces at the callback—anything to distract from one of my longest held insecurities.

So here's what I think I think:

  1. Shame's assessments of my abilities, talents, and limitations— though long standing—are a clever deception.
  2. If I should doubt anything in this world, perhaps it should be the assertion that I don't have what I need, not underlying goodness. #scarcitysux
  3. Having the courage to show up (i.e. try, audition, sing, wait, dance, etc.) diffuses shame and sometimes leads to getting work.